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Ralf Westerhof
Hypnotherapy
and EMDR

Ralf Westerhof
Hypnotherapy
and EMDR

My approach

“Until we make the unconscious conscious, it controls your life and you call it fate.” - Carl Jung

Everyone has their "life challenge". One person earns money easily but cannot keep relationships. The other has a happy family at 25, but never dares to follow his heart or ask money for his talent. Yet another can't stop her head and thinks herself into a depression. Feeling like an imposter at your high post, vague chronic complaints that slow you down, not daring to stand up for yourself, being more concerned with the feelings and needs of others than your own; there are many life challenges. The keys that will take you beyond them lie within you and I will help you find them..
but only if you want to of course.

I take what I have learned as an entrepreneur, dance teacher, experienced meditator (5000+ hours) and internationally operating artist into my practice. As I do with what I learned on my path out of early trauma and my path coming from anxiety and avoidance in relationships to now having a happy family. Personal experience and intimate knowledge of this deep work, processes with hundreds of clients, combined with an insatiable eagerness to learn, has developed me and my work considerably. This has led to the path that I now offer. The concept is simple; I'll be standing next to you for six months while both of us focus on your growth.

That's how it works
In the first phase we see each other weekly, we discover where you want to go and what stands in the way. We look at those blockages together, be they (inter-generational) traumas or deeply rooted beliefs that no longer serve you, and then process them. During this 2 to 3 month period your life will change rapidly. You will see yourself doing things that you previously avoided. And if you are used to always being in a state of alertness, you will find peace more and more often, causing old (addiction) patterns to fade away.

You will have to get used to all that new energy and freedom to choose what you want to do. In the second phase I will guide you in this and provide you with tools to help you. You will get to know the functioning and interaction of your body and mind, so you can take better care of them. In this phase we see each other every other week.

More and more you will do what you actually want, we will face together any feelings of guilt that may come with that. I help you stay on your chosen path and use hypnosis so that your subconscious becomes your greatest resource and no longer the invisible opposing force that you now experience.

In the third phase you live your new life and we see each other every 3 to 4 weeks to tackle any challenges you come across together. In six months you have turned your life around forever. On a relational and professional level, you'll be moving towards your values, purpose and happiness every day.

It's not for everyone
Not everyone is ready to make a real commitment to themselves that will make life richer. Most people first have to struggle for years in relationships that don't work or do work that doesn't feel good. If you have toiled long enough, you will feel clearly that it is your time, whether you are 22 or 72.

That deep drive for growth in you will no longer be satisfied with more reading, a session somewhere, another course or retreat. There's certainly value in those things, but to get real breakthroughs, almost all of us need more help. Someone who is there for you, a guide with whom you feel safe enough to finally do the deep work. Someone who knows the challenges and has gone through them himself. Someone who has an overview of the terrain you want to traverse. Someone with knowledge and techniques that can accelerate your path by years.

Are you ready to make real progress? Then I invite you for a conversation to see if we want to commit ourselves to helping you flourish as a person in six months.

Contact me without any obligation
Just click on the Whatsapp button to send me a message and we will schedule an introductory phone call. During that conversation we can discuss whether your situation is suitable for this working method.
“Until we make the unconscious conscious, it controls your life and you call it fate.” - Carl Jung

Everyone has their "life challenge". One person earns money easily but cannot keep relationships. The other has a happy family at 25, but never dares to follow his heart or ask money for his talent. Yet another can't stop her head and thinks herself into a depression. Feeling like an imposter at your high post, vague chronic complaints that slow you down, not daring to stand up for yourself, being more concerned with the feelings and needs of others than your own; there are many life challenges. The keys that will take you beyond them lie within you and I will help you find them..
but only if you want to of course.

I take what I have learned as an entrepreneur, dance teacher, experienced meditator (5000+ hours) and internationally operating artist into my practice. As I do with what I learned on my path out of early trauma and my path coming from anxiety and avoidance in relationships to now having a happy family. Personal experience and intimate knowledge of this deep work, processes with hundreds of clients, combined with an insatiable eagerness to learn, has developed me and my work considerably. This has led to the path that I now offer. The concept is simple; I'll be standing next to you for six months while both of us focus on your growth.

That's how it works
In the first phase we see each other weekly, we discover where you want to go and what stands in the way. We look at those blockages together, be they (inter-generational) traumas or deeply rooted beliefs that no longer serve you, and then process them. During this 2 to 3 month period your life will change rapidly. You will see yourself doing things that you previously avoided. And if you are used to always being in a state of alertness, you will find peace more and more often, causing old (addiction) patterns to fade away.

You will have to get used to all that new energy and freedom to choose what you want to do. In the second phase I will guide you in this and provide you with tools to help you. You will get to know the functioning and interaction of your body and mind, so you can take better care of them. In this phase we see each other every other week.

More and more you will do what you actually want, we will face together any feelings of guilt that may come with that. I help you stay on your chosen path and use hypnosis so that your subconscious becomes your greatest resource and no longer the invisible opposing force that you now experience.

In the third phase you live your new life and we see each other every 3 to 4 weeks to tackle any challenges you come across together. In six months you have turned your life around forever. On a relational and professional level, you'll be moving towards your values, purpose and happiness every day.

It's not for everyone
Not everyone is ready to make a real commitment to themselves that will make life richer. Most people first have to struggle for years in relationships that don't work or do work that doesn't feel good. If you have toiled long enough, you will feel clearly that it is your time, whether you are 22 or 72.

That deep drive for growth in you will no longer be satisfied with more reading, a session somewhere, another course or retreat. There's certainly value in those things, but to get real breakthroughs, almost all of us need more help. Someone who is there for you, a guide with whom you feel safe enough to finally do the deep work. Someone who knows the challenges and has gone through them himself. Someone who has an overview of the terrain you want to traverse. Someone with knowledge and techniques that can accelerate your path by years.

Are you ready to make real progress? Then I invite you for a conversation to see if we want to commit ourselves to helping you flourish as a person in six months.

Contact me without any obligation
Just click on the Whatsapp button to send me a message and we will schedule an introductory phone call. During that conversation we can discuss whether your situation is suitable for this working method.

He also shows the person behind the therapist.

I am someone who does not easily trust men, but Ralf really sees me for who I am and can see through my soul. Sometimes I found matters difficult to discuss, but Ralf's open, empathetic and sensitive attitude meant that not many words were needed. This made my healing process a lot easier. I have seen little of my past as something I could look back on with admiration. Through an EMDR session I saw and felt how strong I am. I felt empowered and admired myself rather than condemnation. This felt very liberating.
Furthermore, what I am grateful for is that Ralf notices subtle changes. I often used a lot of words, because of this I went away from my feelings and then Ralf could bring me back to my emotional world. It was more common for him to realize what I was supposed to feel in a situation in my past, rather than actually feel it. Only after he mentioned that situation is painful, I could only allow the pain and feel it fully.
Finally, I love that Ralf doesn't stick to the clinical setting. This has never worked for me in the past. Ralf is not afraid to show himself. He also shows the person behind the therapist and that is exactly what I needed and what works for me to heal. I am very grateful for Ralf's guidance.

I am a psychologist myself…

After a long search for a good hypnotherapist I ended up with Ralf. It soon felt safe and familiar, so I immediately dared to discuss my biggest fear / problem with him. I am a psychologist myself and know enough tactics to overcome fears, but I also know that some feelings and patterns are so deep that it is very difficult to be able to fundamentally change something through, for example, cognitive behavioral therapy. Under the guidance of Ralf, I am able to go to the 'deeper layer' and make changes to it. Ralf does not cling tightly to protocols, but he lets my subconscious mind be sent. As a result, we come to events, feelings, and thoughts that I would otherwise have difficulty accessing. Ralf is a very empathetic, warm and committed therapist, who can provide excellent assistance in working on various problems. I am very happy that I have taken this step and Ralf is the one who guides me through this process.

Every session feels like a clear step forward …

Often you consciously know very well how you would like to change your own behavioral patterns, but there is something that is stopping you, that you cannot really name, so that it does not work. With hypnotherapy you will explore your subconscious. In this way you get to know your unconscious behaviors and patterns that often have a source in the past, and you work towards solutions to these unpleasant situations, so that the hindering emotions are reduced. This makes it easier for you to do the things you want to do in your daily life. Ralf is a careful supervisor of this search process. He has a number of different methods to support you in this, and intuitively chooses what suits you best. He really takes the time for you, so you can go into the depths and you can make big steps in your development. Every session feels like a clear step forward in the desired direction.

He has a really great sense of “what’s going on”…

Ralf is incredibly kind and caring, as you would want from someone in this line of work. However, just as important is that I've found him to be deeply intuitive and emphatic. He has a really great sense of "what's going on" with the issues I bring to him, and perhaps it's that Dutch pragmatism but he's really good at figuring out which technique in his arsenal to use on any given session. I'm incredibly happy with the sessions I've had with him.

Ralf has definitely provided a deep transformation.

Ralf’s methodologies brought me deep inside from the very first session. By now I was familiar with the origin of certain obstructing patterns / beliefs that I had, but Ralf could help me to feel, to really become aware. And in doing so he helped me to break free: to release blockages. On a mental but also energetic level.
When he predicted in advance that I would need about 6 sessions, I thought that it would be overestimated. But: he really succeeded! In just a few sessions he created clarity and liberation. Ralf has definitely provided a deep transformation.

really extremely valuable every time

Ralf is calm, respectful and compassionate. He really tries to take you further, but without becoming hard/blunt. Ralf has many different tools available and will look at which one is right for you, at what time. I think one of the most special things about Ralf is that he hits the nail on the head every session. We always work exactly on where change is needed. 6 sessions was not enough for me, but I really enjoy being able to apply everything I learn - and that is really extremely valuable every time - and then take it one step further. I can really recommend Ralf wholeheartedly.

It is wonderful and beautiful to find, at the age of 74, what I have needed for so long.

Without much searching or talking, Ralf chooses an issue that I raise and then takes me straight to the core. I don't understand how exactly, but it just happens. He helps me to feel so safe that I dare to live through difficult things and in this way make room within myself for lightness and happiness. It is wonderful and beautiful to find, at the age of 74, what I have needed for so long and I am very happy with that!!

Sleeping problems and a lack of life direction

Both Ralf as a person and the therapeutic knowledge that he possesses I have experienced as very valuable. Il felt safe, heard and understood before, during and after the sessions. Openness and responsiveness seem to be a must, at least for me, to get the treatments positive effect as a client. Highly recommended in the field of hypnotherapy for sleeping and daring to give your life direction.

My life has been changing rapidly..

Ralf is a practicing therapist with special abilities. Since I was in therapy with him, my life has been changing rapidly. Certain patterns that I thought I could never transcend. I transcend. I dare to live more and do what I feel like. My life energy is given back to me through the collaboration with Ralf. I don't know anyone who works like him. After having had several therapists, I became very critical. Now I realize what a good therapist is. Thanks to Ralf's sensitivity, he feels exactly where I am in a session and leaves nothing behind. His love for what he does as a therapist runs through the sessions like a red thread and makes me feel free to express what I experience.

Beforehand I had quite a lot of fear …

Ralf reassured me and took me to places where I would probably never come again without hypnotherapy. Through his help and presence, I was able to watch events in my life that had created a negative belief in me. Now that I experienced these memories again, I was able to get rid of a certain noise. Ralf is present and invisible in a very pleasant way. You notice his involvement and how he genuinely wants to help you. I had a lot of fear beforehand, but Ralf took away my fear of hypnotherapy. I grant everyone one or more sessions with Ralf.

Also think of physical complaints like a stuck neck that nobody can help you with..

Knowing that you can get more out of your life but always stay in analysis mode so it never really changes? Ralf's sessions are life changing. He has made me feel that so many things become clear in your life. Also think of physical complaints a stuck neck that nobody can help you with until the moment when the emotions come loose. By feeling you go live and how you experience that automatically .. I could not reach my emotions but through this way I finally succeeded.

I felt really seen!

I came to Ralf to help me through a difficult period in my life. In advance I was not sure what to expect, but Ralf's friendly, calm and positive character made me feel quickly familiar. I was impressed how much we could achieve in one session by feeling and experiencing and how quickly Ralf sensed what was going on inside me, very special. I felt really seen! It has helped me to let go of certain beliefs, to be more in touch with my emotions and boundaries and to be empowered. I have been brought back on my own path. When I think back to 2 months ago it is a world of difference from where I am now. Thank you!

I learned to look at myself with more compassion.

In the few sessions with Ralf I learned to look at myself with more compassion, this also makes it easier to look at others without judgment. We also healed a trauma in a short time, so that everything flows again. Feels like a very worthwhile investment in myself.

A new world has opened up for me.

A new world has opened up for me. During the sessions with Ralf I always experienced a feeling of coming home and after six sessions I feel much more connected to myself. To me it only feels like a beginning and I'm curious to see what else it will bring me. Excited to discover that! Thank you Ralf

He never gets bogged down in unnecessary details.

Ralf has helped me unlock some of the deepest parts of my mind and gain a newfound sense of clarity. My sessions with him have been nothing short of incredible - I've been able to unravel thought patterns that previously left me feeling confused. Ralf has a special talent for honing in on what truly matters, and he never gets bogged down in unnecessary details. This means that our sessions have been incredibly effective, and I've come away from each one feeling more centered and empowered than ever before. Yes to more self-compassion and inner strength; I wholeheartedly recommend working with Ralf!

Helped with my fear of speaking…

Ralf guided me in a relaxed and safe way and helped me with my fear of speaking. Where my body froze earlier as soon as I went back to specific memories. With those same memories - after the sessions with Ralf roaring laughter appeared from within me! Thank you Ralf!

New style offering
As of October 2023, I have changed my working method. While I previously also offered individual sessions, I already had a strong preference for the six-session packages that most clients chose on my recommendation. With my current offer I am going one step further. I will not only help you over the first hill, but will help you shape your life from there.

I decided to do this because I judge that many of my clients do not allow themselves to receive enough support. That is our culture telling us that we have to be able to do it all by ourselves. I think this is not in line with our biology; our nervous system needs to first learn in co-regulation in order to be able to self-regulate. Ideally, this happens as a child, but I hardly ever met anyone who had that luck. When we go through this process together for six months, you'll really be able to do it by yourself. Then you won't pass this old pattern on to the next generation, it ends with you. Your life and that of your children will benefit more than you perhaps can imagine now.
New style offering
As of October 2023, I have changed my working method. While I previously also offered individual sessions, I already had a strong preference for the six-session packages that most clients chose on my recommendation. With my current offer I am going one step further. I will not only help you over the first hill, but will help you shape your life from there.

I decided to do this because I judge that many of my clients do not allow themselves to receive enough support. That is our culture telling us that we have to be able to do it all by ourselves. I think this is not in line with our biology; our nervous system needs to first learn in co-regulation in order to be able to self-regulate. Ideally, this happens as a child, but I hardly ever met anyone who had that luck. When we go through this process together for six months, you'll really be able to do it by yourself. Then you won't pass this old pattern on to the next generation, it ends with you. Your life and that of your children will benefit more than you perhaps can imagine now.
Worth watching
Worth watching
This video explains in a simple way how a whole range of problems are linked to a dysregulated Autonomic Nervous System. Chronic conditions such as irritable bowel syndrome, migraines and fibromyalgia. But also fear of commitment and separation anxiety, fear of public speaking, addictions, you name it, the list is huge.

My own journey
In addition to typical learning the Hypnotherapy techniques, I have spent a lot of time regulating my own nervous system. I did this by spending thousands of hours in meditation and by working with therapist. Besides this I've spent years training Empathy through Nonviolent Communication classes. All the work I did on myself allows your nervous system to easily connect to my calm nervous system. This gives your system the the cue of safety it needs to work through things you haven't yet done. 

I also went through quite a journey myself. For years I was not in touch with my feelings because of trauma. I had many relationships, most were short lived. Concentration was difficult for me and sex was way too important. I just couldn't find peace. Now I feel safe in my relationship in a way that I have never before experienced in my life. My work is flourishing on multiple levels and I can enjoy being a father :)

Many of you, like me, have tried a lot with limited success. I'd love to see you also get the help you need to improve your life.
This video explains in a simple way how a whole range of problems are linked to a dysregulated Autonomic Nervous System. Chronic conditions such as irritable bowel syndrome, migraines and fibromyalgia. But also fear of commitment and separation anxiety, fear of public speaking, addictions, you name it, the list is huge.

My own journey
In addition to typical learning the Hypnotherapy techniques, I have spent a lot of time regulating my own nervous system. I did this by spending thousands of hours in meditation and by working with therapist. Besides this I've spent years training Empathy through Nonviolent Communication classes. All the work I did on myself allows your nervous system to easily connect to my calm nervous system. This gives your system the the cue of safety it needs to work through things you haven't yet done. 

I also went through quite a journey myself. For years I was not in touch with my feelings because of trauma. I had many relationships, most were short lived. Concentration was difficult for me and sex was way too important. I just couldn't find peace. Now I feel safe in my relationship in a way that I have never before experienced in my life. My work is flourishing on multiple levels and I can enjoy being a father :)

Many of you, like me, have tried a lot with limited success. I'd love to see you also get the help you need to improve your life.

I work with:

- Burnout symptoms
- PTSD (Trauma)
- Depression
- Irritable Bowel Syndrome
- Youth trauma
- Fear of commitment
- Fear of abandonment
- Addictions
- Fear to speak
- Anxiety disorders
- Sexual problems
- Sleep problems
- Stress
- Phobias
- Chronic physical complaints
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